Things to think about when looking for a wife
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22
Start with yourself:
Are you a Godly man worthy of a Godly woman? (1 Timothy 3:1-10, Titus 1:6-9)
Are you capable of loving her like Christ loves the church? (Mark 10:45, 12:31, John 15:13, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 1 Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:25-33)
Am I growing more like Christ? (Romans 12:1-8,9-13, Galatians 5:16-26)
In her:
Is she a believer? (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Is she biblically qualifed to be your wife? (Mark 10:11-12, 1 Timothy 3:11, Titus 2:3-5, 1 Peter 3:1-6, Ephesians 5:22-24)
Does she exhibit Godly wisdom and characteristics for a wife?
Wise with money - Proverbs 31:16, 18
Hard worker - Proverbs 13:4, 31:17
Lives an upright life - Psalm 1, Proverbs 13:6,20
Encouraging - Proverbs 12:18, 18:21
Is she growing in the characteristics of biblical womanhood and what the Bible calls “true beauty”? (Proverbs 31)
Questions to ask yourself (and trusted advisors) to see clearly through the veil of infatuation:
Are you attracted to her for all the right reasons?
Can you foresee her being your wife for a lifetime?
Can you foresee her as the mother of your children?
Does she have a worldview compatible with yours?
Do you believe she will care for you well?
Does she show clear regard and care for others?
Does she show evident love for God in how she spends time and money, how she interacts with others?
Do you envision her being supportive of you in whatever ministry God may call you to?
The people who love you the most, your closest friends, think she’s good for you?
The people who love her believe that you are good for her?
Both:
Will we be able to serve God better together or apart?
Does the relationship drive you toward God and His people?
Live out the gospel on a daily basis, forgiving, serving, and putting others first in the most ordinary issues of life in such a way that you see yourself in training for godliness.
For some great articles, including an ebook which most of this was taken from check out http://www.boundless.org/guys/
